Trust is hard. It’s one of those words that are easy to write, easy to say but oh so hard to actually do. I don’t do trust well. I used to say it’s the New Yorker in me that makes me skeptic and untrusting by nature. The truth, though, is that I don’t trust because it’s safer not to. It’s safer to stay tucked in behind the 10 foot wall I have built around me, because in there I can control what happens. I get to decide who is invited behind my wall and who I will keep out.
I’m reading Daring Greatly right now. I know I’m probably the only human left on the planet who hasn’t read it yet. And the funny thing is, I have recommended the book more times than I count because I love Brene’s work so much. But it hasn’t felt right to read it until now. Now when I’m upon this season of change and living into my OneWord for this year of RISK. As I read her words I’m reminded that vulnerability isn’t an option if I want to really experience love and belonging, something my soul craves. But how do I trust? How do I learn who deserves to come in and who doesn’t?
What I’m learning is that my heart knows. It knows who’s safe and who isn’t. My heart knows because it is grounded in truth, while my mind is festered with the lies of comparison and not enoughness. But truth lives in my heart and when I learn to quiet the voices around me, and sit in the silence and solitude, then my heart speaks. It tells me what I need to know, where I need to go and who needs to journey with me.
I don’t know your story. I don’t know what you are facing right now but I imagine at least one person reading these words is wondering how they’re going to make it. How in the world, can you know what to do? What’s the right decision? Who are the right people? To you I say, trust your heart. It knows! Your heart knows what you need and if you can still the voices of the naysayers around you, your heart will guide you where you need to go.
Your mind wants to control but your heart wants to guide. Trust your heart because it already knows. It might not make sense in your head but if it feels right in your heart then step boldly into that unknown place, take the risk and watch what happens. I have a feeling you might be surprised by what you find.
Once upon a time, my friend Lisa-Jo found her heart tugging in a direction that surprised her. After having declared that being a mom was not the path she was meant to walk, she heard her heart saying something different. She didn’t know what to make of it but she listened and found herself surprised by motherhood. She has crafted a beautifully written story of her journey to momhood and in her own unique way, she celebrates the superheros that are Moms.
In honor of Mother’s Day next weekend, I’m giving away a copy of her book, Surprised by Motherhood. Click here to view the trailer. To be entered all you have to do is share in the comments one of the biggest surprises you found when you took a risk and trusted your heart. The contest will stay open until Monday May 5 at 11:59 PM EST. I will choose someone on Tuesday morning and ship you a brand new copy of the book, with a special surprise from Lisa-Jo herself. Even if you don’t win, I strongly recommend picking up a copy of this book for yourself or a mother in your life. Her words are like honey to your soul and will soothe the aching tired parts of your being.
Praying today that we all learn how to trust a little more easily.
From my heart to yours,